This post is a follow up of the last post by brother Abu Muhammad. The reason I made this one independent is the urgent need to right people’s conception about marriage. Read carefully the following hadith of the Prophet (peace be upon him), and you will realize that marriage is not intended solely for the satisfaction of the so-called desire “LOVE”.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “A believer should not hate (his wife) believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics he will be pleased with another“. [Recorded by Muslim].
This hadith involves the woman as well. Sheikh As-Sa’di remarkably commented, “This hadith teaches us how to deal with the wife, the friend, the relatives of kin, and anybody in this life. A person should adjust himself/herself and keep in mind that anybody you meet, including yourself, has flaws and faults and something you dislike about him/her. At this moment, in order to accommodate with this situation, you should focus your efforts on his/her good side, try to develop a healthy relationship, and overlook whatever that might kill this joy.”
One should never assume that love will remain forever; the life between the husband and the wife starts off with this love and then evolves into a habit; love gradually fades away. But look at it from this angle: isn’t care, kindness, gentleness, or tolerance of something one might not like about the other an integral part of this love? If we followed the teaching of the Prophet in this hadith, we will feel peace, comfort, and tranquility replacing unrest and dullness engulfing our lives.
Just reconfigure your idea about love and inshaallah you will enjoy and lead a healthy and productive life.
Written by: Abdullah Ibrahim Omran al-Misri.