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IT’S NOT ALL ABOUT LOVE IN MARRIAGE; THINK AGAIN!

This post is a follow up of the last post by brother Abu Muhammad. The reason I made this one independent is the urgent need to right people’s conception about marriage. Read carefully the following hadith of the Prophet (peace be upon him), and you will realize that marriage is not intended solely for the satisfaction of the so-called desire “LOVE”.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “A believer should not hate (his wife) believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics he will be pleased with another“. [Recorded by Muslim].

This hadith involves the woman as well. Sheikh As-Sa’di remarkably commented, “This hadith teaches us how to deal with the wife, the friend, the relatives of kin, and anybody in this life. A person should adjust himself/herself and keep in mind that anybody you meet, including yourself, has flaws and faults and something you dislike about him/her. At this moment, in order to accommodate with this situation, you should focus your efforts on his/her good side, try to develop a healthy relationship, and overlook whatever that might kill this joy.”

One should never assume that love will remain forever; the life between the husband and the wife starts off with this love and then evolves into a habit; love gradually fades away. But look at it from this angle: isn’t care, kindness, gentleness, or tolerance of something one might not like about the other an integral part of this love? If we followed the teaching of the Prophet in this hadith, we will feel peace, comfort, and  tranquility replacing  unrest and dullness engulfing our lives.

Just reconfigure your idea about love and inshaallah you will enjoy and lead a healthy and productive life.

Written by: Abdullah Ibrahim Omran al-Misri.

THE RESPONSIBILITIES OF THE EDUCATOR (PART 1)

The major responsibility of the educator; this covers both parents:

1- Spiritual education: to teach your child the great profession of faith “la ilah illa Allah”, to teach your child the basic concepts of Halal and Haram, to order him/her to pray at the age of seven, to nurture him/her on the love of Allah, His Prophet (peace be upon him), and the love of the Qur’an. To teach him/her the major five principles of Islam and the six articles of faith. To instill humility to Allah in his/her heart, and to be mindful of Allah in both of his/her public and personal affairs.

2- Moral education: this sort of education is a fruit of the spiritual education; you are supposed to educate your child on truthfulness and the rest of good morals, to warn him against lying and the rest of wicked traits.

3- Health education: the parent or the educator should observe the health rules for the child, to drive them away from potential areas of ham and illness, to treat his/her illness. To teach them archery, horse riding, and swimming as you see fit and safe. To teach the boys trait of how to be serious and traits of manhood.

Source: The Prophetic guidance in educating children: (130-131).

Translated by: Abdullah Ibrahim Omran al-Misri.