Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:
Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, “The most perfect believers are those who have the best behavior, and the best of you are those who are the best to their wives.” [At-Tirmidhi}
The relationship between the husband and his wife should be based on mutual respect, admiration, and noble conduct.
Sheikh ibn Uthaymeen comments on this hadith:
“The person should treat his/her family with the best of conduct; since they are the closest to him/her. One should follow the Prophet’s example, as expressed by ‘Aishah, that he was in the service of his family (peace be upon him).” (Riyad as-Saliheen).
Being in the service of the family reflects a well-disciplined conduct plus the great impact on the rest of the family members; the children will imitate their father when he helps their mother, the wife will look at her husband with great affection, and the husband will sense the delicious fruits of his behavior with his family in every aspect of his life. Such spirit of cooperation will flow over the family and will establish long-lasting bounds of mutual admiration.
This post is a follow up of the last post by brother Abu Muhammad. The reason I made this one independent is the urgent need to right people’s conception about marriage. Read carefully the following hadith of the Prophet (peace be upon him), and you will realize that marriage is not intended solely for the satisfaction of the so-called desire “LOVE”.
The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “A believer should not hate (his wife) believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics he will be pleased with another“. [Recorded by Muslim].
This hadith involves the woman as well. Sheikh As-Sa’di remarkably commented, “This hadith teaches us how to deal with the wife, the friend, the relatives of kin, and anybody in this life. A person should adjust himself/herself and keep in mind that anybody you meet, including yourself, has flaws and faults and something you dislike about him/her. At this moment, in order to accommodate with this situation, you should focus your efforts on his/her good side, try to develop a healthy relationship, and overlook whatever that might kill this joy.”
One should never assume that love will remain forever; the life between the husband and the wife starts off with this love and then evolves into a habit; love gradually fades away. But look at it from this angle: isn’t care, kindness, gentleness, or tolerance of something one might not like about the other an integral part of this love? If we followed the teaching of the Prophet in this hadith, we will feel peace, comfort, and tranquility replacing unrest and dullness engulfing our lives.
Just reconfigure your idea about love and inshaallah you will enjoy and lead a healthy and productive life.
This is a subject ignored by many of us and only focused upon by a few of us. “Happiness” is very important and if you are a Muslim father and husband it is very important to raise and nurture your family upon it. Islam has all that is required for one to gain happiness wether he or she is rich or poor. Yet without beneficial knowledge many Muslims take harmful paths to find it. And many use “sadness” as a weapon assisting the Shaytaan against themselves and others and we seek refuge in Allah from this evil way.
Our children need it as it is essential for their coming years especially when life becomes hardest. May Allah bless and preserve our Sheikh Saalih al-Fawzaan.
A reminder for our men and women on the honorable role, position and status of our women in Islam by looking at the life of Khadeejah bint Khuwaylid (may Allah be pleased with her).
This was at a Sister’s Luncheon hosted by Masjidu Rahmah. It was a nice day and a very nice event. I remember that during the event brothers were competing as they had flowers sent to the tables where their wives were sitting. And the food was really good! Maashaa Allah. Allah is The Giver of all that is good.