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IA Magazine “LEGACY” Part 1

IA-Mag_LegacyP1 Please join us at Insight Audio Magazine we as discuss “LEGACY” Part 1.

Join me and our special guest Abdul Lateef (may Allah have mercy upon him) as we begin to discuss issues of marriage, our futures, sickness, death and what we plan to leave behind in this life.

We hope you benefit and enjoy this show barakallaahu feekum.

“A Happy Family”

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported:

Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, “The most perfect believers are those who have the best behavior, and the best of you are those who are the best to their wives.”    [At-Tirmidhi}

The relationship between the husband and his wife should be based on mutual respect, admiration, and noble conduct.

Sheikh ibn Uthaymeen comments on this hadith:
“The person should treat his/her family with the best of conduct; since they are the closest to him/her. One should follow the Prophet’s example, as expressed by ‘Aishah, that he was in the service of his family (peace be upon him).” (Riyad as-Saliheen).

Being in the service of the family reflects a well-disciplined conduct plus the great impact on the rest of the family members; the children will imitate their father when he helps their mother, the wife will look at her husband with great affection, and the husband will sense the delicious fruits of his behavior with his family in every aspect of his life. Such spirit of cooperation will flow over the family and will establish long-lasting bounds of mutual admiration.

Written by: Abdullah Ibrahim Omran al-Misri.

 

IT’S NOT ALL ABOUT LOVE IN MARRIAGE; THINK AGAIN!

This post is a follow up of the last post by brother Abu Muhammad. The reason I made this one independent is the urgent need to right people’s conception about marriage. Read carefully the following hadith of the Prophet (peace be upon him), and you will realize that marriage is not intended solely for the satisfaction of the so-called desire “LOVE”.

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “A believer should not hate (his wife) believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics he will be pleased with another“. [Recorded by Muslim].

This hadith involves the woman as well. Sheikh As-Sa’di remarkably commented, “This hadith teaches us how to deal with the wife, the friend, the relatives of kin, and anybody in this life. A person should adjust himself/herself and keep in mind that anybody you meet, including yourself, has flaws and faults and something you dislike about him/her. At this moment, in order to accommodate with this situation, you should focus your efforts on his/her good side, try to develop a healthy relationship, and overlook whatever that might kill this joy.”

One should never assume that love will remain forever; the life between the husband and the wife starts off with this love and then evolves into a habit; love gradually fades away. But look at it from this angle: isn’t care, kindness, gentleness, or tolerance of something one might not like about the other an integral part of this love? If we followed the teaching of the Prophet in this hadith, we will feel peace, comfort, and  tranquility replacing  unrest and dullness engulfing our lives.

Just reconfigure your idea about love and inshaallah you will enjoy and lead a healthy and productive life.

Written by: Abdullah Ibrahim Omran al-Misri.

“The ‘Dance’ To Marriage’s Death”

Saying, “I love you” to someone you really love can be very dangerous when it is your wife or husband. “I love you.” It’s just 3 words. But each word is loaded with meaning bringing out emotions that can lead to more pain than the announcer intended.

A marriage is a relationship that can sum up to success or feelings of total failure. Our report card of spousal performance is always on the line with our wife or husband. Marriage over time, for some, can simply equal to years and years of failures and promises not kept. Of sad longings and an uncertain future.

It can bring about mountains of stress the trauma of which makes the sufferer truly believe he or she would have been better off single, drowning alone in a lake of water. Overtime some believe that death is possibly better than the marriage they are in. “The more I try to make things better the worse it seems to become!”, we might say.

Overtime the thrill is gone and smiles fade. Excitement is replaced by anxiety of the moment. We may just go through the motions hoping that our “staged performance” went unnoticed by our spouse. “If I can just get through this day.”, we think.

“Here we go again, another !!!#!$#FY$ $^**!!!!”, we say to ourselves as our ears quickly turn off to the sounds of whatever he or she is saying. “What? Sorry what did you say?”, said the man. “I’m sorry did you expect something else?”, said the woman.

And so it goes. “The Dance To Marriage’s Death” quickens its pace. You may say, “But nothing is right!” This may be so. Or you may say, “It’s always the same ‘ol thing with him/her!” And this is also possible.

Am I close? Barakallaahu feekum.